Over the past year, I have come to know many of the employees and friends of GW. It is not hard since they are a welcoming bunch. Sit at the bar long enough or play pinball, you pick out who is GW staff and who is not. Being who I am, I tend to build relationships. There was occasionally this tall, broad shouldered guy. He seemed to be a quiet, reserved guy who worked as a server. His name was Mike. With his tattoos, height, and pleasant demeanor, Mike was hard to miss. I recall a smile or a nod every time we would see each other. And those will remain my memories of Mike.
A little after I heard the news, I was in conversation with a couple discussing Dali, Gaudi, art, Internet, and youth with cell phones. About this time a gentlemen saddled up to the bar between us to get a drink. He wasn't getting noticed, so I attempted to signal one of the bartenders. He quickly told me not to worry - they were having a rough night. I realized he knew and could tell it hurt him too.
What would you do? Do you say 'Sorry' or 'Feel better', and walk away? My reaction was to offer comfort, encouragement, humor, and when they are ready - topic change. Over about 30min, I learned a lot about David and was happy to hear that our conversation eased his thoughts and mind. He told me that his day was hard and he expected to have a rough night. Fortunately, we met, talked and he felt better.
I wrote this post not to brag about me. The events of last night remind me that we don't choose what happens around us - we only choose how react. David told me that news of Mike's death caused him to contact his loved ones and let them know how much he cared for them.
In today's age of 'connection', do you really know what is going on in your friends' lives? Do you care enough to ask, to help, to encourage, to comfort? I know that I will try better to do so.
I also want to express my condolences for Mike's friends and family. May you find the peace you are looking for.
Thanks for reading,
~J^3
** UPDATE **
Mike's Viewing and Funeral Service will be Wednesday, 09.07.11 and Thursday, 09.08.11 from 3 - 5 pm and 7 - 9 pm at Peaceful Alternatives, 2325 York Road, Timonium, MD 21093. Friday, 09.09.11, the Funeral will begin at 11 am at the same location.
In lieu of flowers, we request donations be made in order to help others suffering from addiction.
Please send pictures ...to siska.miller@gmail.com.
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He will be wearing his dancing shoes.